Friday, 25 March 2016

PULPITORIA: SETTLING DISPUTES IN MARRIAGE



PULPITORIA        ( c. Dede)



LET US READ

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground." Genesis 1:27-28

“The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:23-24

“Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?" "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'  and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." Matthew 19:3-6

ENCOURAGEMENT

Marriage is indeed unique; an institution created by God. Through scripture, we understand that in marriage, a man leaves his father, mother, background and circumstances and joins to a woman with equally different set of variables. They then live together and become one flesh and produce a distinctive identity all their own. This identity is a creative miracle of God, but it does not preclude the fact that it may encounter some challenges now and then. The responsibility lies squarely with the couple to accommodate one another and ensure it works.

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Challenges may arise in form of difference of opinion over such matters as finance, what to eat, drink, wear, actions or inactions, how to behave in certain circumstances etc.; and if not handled well and promptly may lead to each spouse taking offence that could lead to a strain or even brake up of the marriage. There was a case where such a trivial matter as whether a tube of tooth paste is pressed from the top or bottom led to a divorce! Each issue or challenge may present a different set of characteristics, but the couple must consciously decide to sit down and navigate a way forward and act accordingly. 

Two ingredients among so many others will help them to achieve this: vision for their marriage and love. You may wonder what vision has to do with marriage, but it in fact has everything to do with it. The vision you have for your marriage will enable you look beyond challenges, hurts and temporary discomforts. So do you have a vision for your marriage? It is not late; you can still prayerfully ask God for a vision for your marriage. It was vision that helped our Lord Jesus Christ to fulfil destiny. In Hebrews 12:1-3 we read: “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart”. The joy set before your marriage is the vision that will help you overcome its challenges!  

Love is the other key ingredient, and of course with it comes forgiveness. The bible says that love covers a multitude of sin. (1 Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.) This simply means that with love you can cover for each other, overlook irritations, forgive each other and enjoy your marriage.

LET US PRAY

O Lord, heal every marriage that is hurting and through your love and divine vision restore the best of heaven for such marriage and family in Jesus name.

POST SCRIPT
Marriage is an institution created by God, and for it to succeeded it must be run with the principles of God; first of which is a personal relationship with God and the Lord Jesus Christ. It will help to contact a bible believing church near you; if you don’t already attend one.

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God bless you.

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